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This is an interesting time to be alive. While it
seems on the outside like chaos, I am seeing things in a different
way. The way I see it, lots of people are getting more of what they
really want by getting a big and unexpected push.
You might be scratching your head right now and saying to yourself
"that gal is crazy -- totally nuts". I know it must seem
that way but keep reading -- you might find a nugget in there
somewhere.
You see, most of the world trudges through life with
"have-tos" running through their head, and "wish
for" silently consuming their thoughts. The factory worker who
really wants to start his or her own business. The executive who
really would like to quit, but is stuck with golden handcuffs. The
office worker who wants to go back to school. These are all examples
of people wanting something and not taking action to get it.
So the world is giving them a push. Layoffs, cutbacks, broken
contracts and change are everywhere. This, my dear readers is one of
the biggest opportunities you are ever going to have to reach your
potential and finally really get that thing you've been secretly and
silently wanting.
You might be thinking "Well, okay I get that, but why does it
have to be so hard?" The truth is: it DOESN'T have to be hard.
We make it hard by holding so tight onto the thing we don't want that
we fail to appreciate the opportunities at hand.
I have a private client who has just been through the 2-Day
Turnaround breakthrough program. When she came in, she knew things
weren't working and she wasn't reaching her potential but didn't want
to let go of the little bits that she believed were working. We found
the irony in that she was working 16 hour days and had very little
results to show for it. Little by little, she began to realize that
the choices she had made could be reversed -- and that her potential
could change immediately.
What she really wanted and what she was doing were two completely
different things. We formulated a plan for her to let go of things
not working and realign herself with what she really wanted. The
opportunities started showing up immediately. Within 3 months, she
completely transformed her life and her business and is now happily
doing the work she loves for clients she adores.
Here are 5 things that were holding her back from her potential (and
might be holding you back too).
1. Not
admitting that things aren't working
If things are difficult and struggles are an everyday occurrence,
something is terribly wrong. Struggle is different than challenge.
Challenge can be invigorating -- struggle is draining. The first step
in unlocking your potential is to take inventory of your life and
consider what's not working. The symptoms of things not working will
be lack of something (not enough time, money, energy, relationships,
etc)
2. Not
knowing your style and values
Understanding your unique blueprint of the world is critical if
you're going to make the right decisions for you. Consider what's
important to you about your life and match your values to your
activities to get yourself in alignment with your dreams.
3. Saying
"Yes" to too many things
What activities are taking up your time? What's on your plate right
now? And more importantly, what needs to come off your plate? Are you
trying to force yourself to complete a project, have a relationship,
build a business that doesn't work? Who or what do you need to say
"No" to today?
4. Not being
comfortable not knowing
Who knows what will happen today, tomorrow, next week or next year
for that matter? Spending time in an anxious state of not knowing is
not helpful or productive in any way, and will only make you more
fearful. Having a death grip on something that's not working is more
detrimental than being in the "goo" of not knowing. All
creation takes place in this state of not knowing because it's
becoming known!
5. Not
having faith and trust in the process
When you are on the path to reaching your
potential, it sometimes feels like the world has gone badly awry. The
constant shifting and changing (and people leaving and new ones
appearing) can have a devastating effect if you try to manipulate
every situation to your needs. During this time, it is important to
examine what IS working and what you ARE working toward instead of
looking back and noticing the destruction.
I know that for my client (and myself too)
these are the things we constantly go through as we evolve. It does
become easier to go through the roller coaster of life with a few
rules (and some good friends) along the way.
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the Author:
Stephanie Frank, Founder and President of SuccessIQ University,
is the best selling author of "The Accidental Millionaire."
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